How You Say it Matters.

[meyzee]

Words either build bridges or make walls, and I think it depends on how we use them.

I grew up in a household where communication wasn’t really practiced. We didn’t really talked much about our feelings or what we wanted, and because of this, I missed out on a lot of opportunities and connections. Growing up that way, it becomes a challenge for me to express my emotions and speak what is on my mind even when I have something to say.

I think being able to express your thoughts and share your ideas, without creating misunderstandings or tension, is what makes us truly connected. It is not just about giving instructions on what to do and hoping that the receiver would get it. It's all about making sure that you are understood clearly in the right way possible.

Early in my career, it was really hard for me to communicate. I would often mimic what I saw from my superiors—giving instructions the same way they did and not minding how it sounded. But over time I realized that it is not the best approach.

I’ve had two bosses before who had very different styles of supervision. One had a bad temper and would shout and insult while giving orders. And the other who listens and gives instructions with a respectful tone. And I've admired the latter's approach more. He managed to get things done without causing tension or fear, simply because he communicated it clearly and respectfully. I would often love to follow his instructions more than the first one.

That being said, many people forget that tone plays a huge role in communication. To you, it might seem normal, but it might not be on the receiver’s end. It might come off as bossy and demanding. Over the years of working, I've learned that it is possible to give guidance and reminders without sounding too controlling. You just have to be direct about what you want while being respectful, being firm yet still considerate of other feelings.

Besides tone, one of the biggest challenges I've encountered in communication is the language barrier. Experiencing it firsthand had shaped me to improve and be better while giving instruction. I have learned to clarify if I understood everything correctly and ensure that my message is received as I intend it to be.

In the end, communication is what we all need to understand each other and create a harmonious environment no matter where we are--- might it be in your workplace, home, talking to friends, or even online. It’s not all about you, but all that is involved.

So the next time you speak up, always remind yourself : how you say it can make all the difference.

 

[thawtar]

Yes, communication is indeed a very important thing, whether it's asking you to do something or doing something you're asked to do.

I'm the same way. If someone sweetly talks to me and asks me to do something, I'll do it all with a happy heart. Otherwise,

it's like I'm a little dissatisfied with having to do a job because I don't want to.

 

[meyzee]

Yes, communication is indeed a very important thing, whether it's asking you to do something or doing something you're asked to do.

I'm the same way. If someone sweetly talks to me and asks me to do something, I'll do it all with a happy heart. Otherwise,

it's like I'm a little dissatisfied with having to do a job because I don't want to.

Absolutely, it's easier to do a job that was asked nicely, i think its because you feel valued rather than being used .

 

[Unluckybolte]

True! Communication has no importance if an appropriate tone is missing from it! The tone strengthens communication more accurately to occur between two parties and create a useful feature of understanding everything transparently like a sight other side of a glass. Fights are usually borne by miscommunication in-between the parties and that lasts till some genius peoples are born to remove all the prior confusions as friendly and respectfully as they can!!!

 

[chibby]

I totally agree with you. Another important thing is that communication nowadays often is digital. Without seeing facial expressions and body language things like jokes could be missunderstood so much faster and because of that its even more important to think through what you type and to who

 

[meyzee]

I totally agree with you. Another important thing is that communication nowadays often is digital. Without seeing facial expressions and body language things like jokes could be misunderstood so much faster and because of that its even more important to think through what you type and to who

You are totally right, talking to people online can be a little tricky. Thanks for pointing that out. By the way, have you ever been in a situation like that before?

 

[thawtar]

I totally agree with you. Another important thing is that communication nowadays often is digital. Without seeing facial expressions and body language things like jokes could be missunderstood so much faster and because of that its even more important to think through what you type and to who

once, I was kidding a close friend. But, she thought misunderstood and I have explained about it too. She thought seriously about it and said me about disagree with my joke right! as you said .. in that situation, if she saw my facial expression, she may understand well.

 

[meyzee]

once, I was kidding a close friend. But, she thought misunderstood and I have explained about it too. She thought seriously about it and said me about disagree with my joke right! as you said .. in that situation, if she saw my facial expression, she may understand well.

Haha she prolly got shock about the joke you made but that only means, joking online could be really tough. I on the other hand, when I tell a joke personally, my friends can’t tell if I’m dead serious or I am joking. Maybe I’m bad at delivery and my face likes to betray me all the time.

 

[TheFreeSpirit]

Your message is a beautiful reminder that communication is a shared space — and you’re doing your part to make that space better for everyone around you. Keep going; the growth you’ve shown is truly inspiring.

 

[Bigwin01]

Communication is the foundation of everything, it always has been; good communication leads to good results, creates bonds, and allows for creative and enjoyable interaction.

 

[syria]

Words either build bridges or make walls, and I think it depends on how we use them.

I grew up in a household where communication wasn’t really practiced. We didn’t really talked much about our feelings or what we wanted, and because of this, I missed out on a lot of opportunities and connections. Growing up that way, it becomes a challenge for me to express my emotions and speak what is on my mind even when I have something to say.

I think being able to express your thoughts and share your ideas, without creating misunderstandings or tension, is what makes us truly connected. It is not just about giving instructions on what to do and hoping that the receiver would get it. It's all about making sure that you are understood clearly in the right way possible.

Early in my career, it was really hard for me to communicate. I would often mimic what I saw from my superiors—giving instructions the same way they did and not minding how it sounded. But over time I realized that it is not the best approach.

I’ve had two bosses before who had very different styles of supervision. One had a bad temper and would shout and insult while giving orders. And the other who listens and gives instructions with a respectful tone. And I've admired the latter's approach more. He managed to get things done without causing tension or fear, simply because he communicated it clearly and respectfully. I would often love to follow his instructions more than the first one.

That being said, many people forget that tone plays a huge role in communication. To you, it might seem normal, but it might not be on the receiver’s end. It might come off as bossy and demanding. Over the years of working, I've learned that it is possible to give guidance and reminders without sounding too controlling. You just have to be direct about what you want while being respectful, being firm yet still considerate of other feelings.

Besides tone, one of the biggest challenges I've encountered in communication is the language barrier. Experiencing it firsthand had shaped me to improve and be better while giving instruction. I have learned to clarify if I understood everything correctly and ensure that my message is received as I intend it to be.

In the end, communication is what we all need to understand each other and create a harmonious environment no matter where we are--- might it be in your workplace, home, talking to friends, or even online. It’s not all about you, but all that is involved.

So the next time you speak up, always remind yourself : how you say it can make all the difference.

One of the most important thing in life to train your self how to communicate with others .. your experience with your bosses explain the human nature and the way they grow up so clearly.. after all we are results of the how each one of us grow up. for me I care more about feelings beyond the words I receive from my friends than the words themselves. feelings never lie.

 

[CharorowtzXD]

Words either build bridges or make walls, and I think it depends on how we use them.

I grew up in a household where communication wasn’t really practiced. We didn’t really talked much about our feelings or what we wanted, and because of this, I missed out on a lot of opportunities and connections. Growing up that way, it becomes a challenge for me to express my emotions and speak what is on my mind even when I have something to say.

I think being able to express your thoughts and share your ideas, without creating misunderstandings or tension, is what makes us truly connected. It is not just about giving instructions on what to do and hoping that the receiver would get it. It's all about making sure that you are understood clearly in the right way possible.

Early in my career, it was really hard for me to communicate. I would often mimic what I saw from my superiors—giving instructions the same way they did and not minding how it sounded. But over time I realized that it is not the best approach.

I’ve had two bosses before who had very different styles of supervision. One had a bad temper and would shout and insult while giving orders. And the other who listens and gives instructions with a respectful tone. And I've admired the latter's approach more. He managed to get things done without causing tension or fear, simply because he communicated it clearly and respectfully. I would often love to follow his instructions more than the first one.

That being said, many people forget that tone plays a huge role in communication. To you, it might seem normal, but it might not be on the receiver’s end. It might come off as bossy and demanding. Over the years of working, I've learned that it is possible to give guidance and reminders without sounding too controlling. You just have to be direct about what you want while being respectful, being firm yet still considerate of other feelings.

Besides tone, one of the biggest challenges I've encountered in communication is the language barrier. Experiencing it firsthand had shaped me to improve and be better while giving instruction. I have learned to clarify if I understood everything correctly and ensure that my message is received as I intend it to be.

In the end, communication is what we all need to understand each other and create a harmonious environment no matter where we are--- might it be in your workplace, home, talking to friends, or even online. It’s not all about you, but all that is involved.

So the next time you speak up, always remind yourself : how you say it can make all the difference.

I can feel you sis. I grew up in a family where we sometimes lack communication. "Sorry" and "I love you" can't be heard mostly. Not until I grew older haha. I became expressive vocally but sometimes I still feel the awkwardness despite they're my family. I still feel it hard to say sorry when I hurt them and tell them how much I love them no matter how much I wanted to say it. But I say sorry and I love you a lot through message hahahaha. Also, sometimes, it feels hard for me to open up even to my mom because my fear of rejection and being misunderstood overshadow me. That's why sometimes I keep my problems to myself even if it's too obvious I can no longer handle the pain. That is also the reason why, whenever I encounter bullies or disrespectful teens, I can't speak up most of the time. I feel like I am mute. Lol.

And speaking of a boss, gosh I had 2 bully bosses who shouts at their team in the middle of work hours. They're such a terror. I had a personal bad experience about them malditas. They both humiliated me not just once but many times. They made fun of me in front of my team mates and other team but I was so speechless all I did was cry and be so ashamed. I'm just glad I no longer work in that company anymore and that the next bosses I had are gentler and kinder.

And speaking of communication, this is one of the reasons why I only have few friends and I chose not to connect with them that much because I hate being misunderstood and I hate rejections.

 

[meyzee]

I can feel you sis. I grew up in a family where we sometimes lack communication. "Sorry" and "I love you" can't be heard mostly

Yeah same with my parents. I think we should blame our ancestors for this. Haha. I mean more of the families I know don’t know how to be expressive.

They both humiliated me not just once but many times. They made fun of me in front of my team mates and other team but I was so speechless all I did was cry and be so ashamed

Oh wow they should have been reported to dole. That is not right. Sorry it happened to you sis. I’m glad you are not there anymore.

And speaking of communication, this is one of the reasons why I only have few friends and I chose not to connect with them that much because I hate being misunderstood and I hate rejections.

I feel you. I don’t have much friend too growing up. But when I started working I treat everyone as my friend. Haha but all subsurface. Few friends are better anyway.

 

[CharorowtzXD]

Yeah same with my parents. I think we should blame our ancestors for this. Haha. I mean more of the families I know don’t know how to be expressive.

Hahaha yeah maybe. Because my mom once told me, my relatives from my father's side are not really showy when it comes to affection. They don't really like saying "I love you" even to their parents while growing up. They are more on actions instead but I can see the tight bond they have in their huge family. and the huge love their parents have for each other. Imagine having 9 children soooooooo much love to shed on each other . As for my mom's side, I also believe they have huge love since their family is also huge. my mom have 7 siblings. But, they have a blood of "Kastila" so you might think they're arguing at times when they talk about matters. Because of how fast and loud their voices are when they talk specially my mom's mom Also, I can hear some of them saying "I love you" to each other but occasionally only. Specially mom. Lol. So yeah, blame it to them

Oh wow they should have been reported to dole. That is not right. Sorry it happened to you sis. I’m glad you are not there anymore

We have not reported the first bossy, power hungry, most maldita boss we had to DOLE but our team decided to file a petition to have her removed from the company because of her failure to do her job successfully and it was successful haha! She actually failed to manage her team carefully as she is either always late or sometimes absent and when she's around, all she do is yell at her team and such then b*tch around. She is a real terror.
The second maldita boss we had, I haven't stayed long with her as I was requested to be transferred to a team where in I can perform better as it was managed by a team leader who is more effective in handling a team. She is firm but also soft hearted and I love her like a mom to me.

I feel you. I don’t have much friend too growing up. But when I started working I treat everyone as my friend. Haha but all subsurface. Few friends are better anyway.

Same hahaha! Actually I started doing the "friendly approach" during college years. But I'm only "friends" with them when they're around me, talk to me and wants something from me. Like if they have a favor to ask. Lolol! If none, they act as if they don't know me so I just do the same thing. "Plastikan" Lol.
When I started working, I had a lot of "friends" specially when it's "inuman time" as part of socialization but on regular days, I only had a few whom I consider "real close friends". The ones who I call mommy and daddy as they are already considered grannies and much more mature, thoughtful and more sympathetic than the dudes below my age. Hahahahha!

 

[meyzee]

Hahaha yeah maybe. Because my mom once told me, my relatives from my father's side are not really showy when it comes to affection. They don't really like saying "I love you" even to their parents while growing up. They are more on actions instead but I can see the tight bond they have in their huge family. and the huge love their parents have for each other. Imagine having 9 children soooooooo much love to shed on each other . As for my mom's side, I also believe they have huge love since their family is also huge. my mom have 7 siblings. But, they have a blood of "Kastila" so you might think they're arguing at times when they talk about matters. Because of how fast and loud their voices are when they talk specially my mom's mom Also, I can hear some of them saying "I love you" to each other but occasionally only. Specially mom. Lol. So yeah, blame it to them


We have not reported the first bossy, power hungry, most maldita boss we had to DOLE but our team decided to file a petition to have her removed from the company because of her failure to do her job successfully and it was successful haha! She actually failed to manage her team carefully as she is either always late or sometimes absent and when she's around, all she do is yell at her team and such then b*tch around. She is a real terror.
The second maldita boss we had, I haven't stayed long with her as I was requested to be transferred to a team where in I can perform better as it was managed by a team leader who is more effective in handling a team. She is firm but also soft hearted and I love her like a mom to me.


Same hahaha! Actually I started doing the "friendly approach" during college years. But I'm only "friends" with them when they're around me, talk to me and wants something from me. Like if they have a favor to ask. Lolol! If none, they act as if they don't know me so I just do the same thing. "Plastikan" Lol.
When I started working, I had a lot of "friends" specially when it's "inuman time" as part of socialization but on regular days, I only had a few whom I consider "real close friends". The ones who I call mommy and daddy as they are already considered grannies and much more mature, thoughtful and more sympathetic than the dudes below my age. Hahahahha!

I love your family dynamics — even if they’re not vocal, they just show affection in their own way. Wow your boss is really something I'm glad you are already at a good place and enjoying your stay there. And yeah, I think everyone of us had gone through that inuman sessions haha as for friends I'm happy that you found real ones along the way.