How You Say it Matters.

[meyzee]

Words either build bridges or make walls, and I think it depends on how we use them.

I grew up in a household where communication wasn’t really practiced. We didn’t really talked much about our feelings or what we wanted, and because of this, I missed out on a lot of opportunities and connections. Growing up that way, it becomes a challenge for me to express my emotions and speak what is on my mind even when I have something to say.

I think being able to express your thoughts and share your ideas, without creating misunderstandings or tension, is what makes us truly connected. It is not just about giving instructions on what to do and hoping that the receiver would get it. It's all about making sure that you are understood clearly in the right way possible.

Early in my career, it was really hard for me to communicate. I would often mimic what I saw from my superiors—giving instructions the same way they did and not minding how it sounded. But over time I realized that it is not the best approach.

I’ve had two bosses before who had very different styles of supervision. One had a bad temper and would shout and insult while giving orders. And the other who listens and gives instructions with a respectful tone. And I've admired the latter's approach more. He managed to get things done without causing tension or fear, simply because he communicated it clearly and respectfully. I would often love to follow his instructions more than the first one.

That being said, many people forget that tone plays a huge role in communication. To you, it might seem normal, but it might not be on the receiver’s end. It might come off as bossy and demanding. Over the years of working, I've learned that it is possible to give guidance and reminders without sounding too controlling. You just have to be direct about what you want while being respectful, being firm yet still considerate of other feelings.

Besides tone, one of the biggest challenges I've encountered in communication is the language barrier. Experiencing it firsthand had shaped me to improve and be better while giving instruction. I have learned to clarify if I understood everything correctly and ensure that my message is received as I intend it to be.

In the end, communication is what we all need to understand each other and create a harmonious environment no matter where we are--- might it be in your workplace, home, talking to friends, or even online. It’s not all about you, but all that is involved.

So the next time you speak up, always remind yourself : how you say it can make all the difference.

 

[thawtar]

Yes, communication is indeed a very important thing, whether it's asking you to do something or doing something you're asked to do.

I'm the same way. If someone sweetly talks to me and asks me to do something, I'll do it all with a happy heart. Otherwise,

it's like I'm a little dissatisfied with having to do a job because I don't want to.

 

[meyzee]

Yes, communication is indeed a very important thing, whether it's asking you to do something or doing something you're asked to do.

I'm the same way. If someone sweetly talks to me and asks me to do something, I'll do it all with a happy heart. Otherwise,

it's like I'm a little dissatisfied with having to do a job because I don't want to.

Absolutely, it's easier to do a job that was asked nicely, i think its because you feel valued rather than being used .

 

[Unluckybolte]

True! Communication has no importance if an appropriate tone is missing from it! The tone strengthens communication more accurately to occur between two parties and create a useful feature of understanding everything transparently like a sight other side of a glass. Fights are usually borne by miscommunication in-between the parties and that lasts till some genius peoples are born to remove all the prior confusions as friendly and respectfully as they can!!!