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There are two very different ways to look at someone who achieves something we haven't yet attained. One is to admire their journey and find in it a reason to keep moving forward. The other is to view their success as a personal affront, feel that their brilliance overshadows our own, and start a competition that, in reality, no one ever asked us to engage in.
The difference may seem small, but it says a lot about what we carry inside.
Sometimes, a person can admire without seeing. They don't need to know all the details, witness every sacrifice, or understand how someone got there. They simply recognize another's merit. They rejoice, learn, ask questions, observe, and instead of feeling inferior, discover that they too can grow.
That is the admiration of a blind person: the kind that doesn't need to look at others' flaws to recognize their virtues. The kind that doesn't seek comparisons, nor measure who has more, who arrived first, or who receives more applause. It is a pure admiration, capable of recognizing talent even when it belongs to someone outside our circle.
But there is also the envy of the mute. The kind that doesn't always dare to say what it feels, but finds other ways to express itself. It's noticeable in subtle put-downs, in the hidden glee when something goes wrong, in the need to downplay the achievements of others, or in that habit of silently competing with someone who isn't even aware they're participating.
It's curious, because while admiration can motivate a person to improve themselves, envy can turn them into a permanent spectator of other people's lives.
Competition isn't necessarily a bad thing. Healthy competition awakens us. It makes us study more, work better, nurture our projects, and rediscover abilities we may have forgotten. Seeing someone else succeed can lead to a valuable question: What can I learn from that person to improve my own path?
At that moment, we're not trying to take anything away from anyone. We're using what we see as inspiration.
The problem begins when we stop wanting to improve ourselves and start wanting to surpass someone at any cost. When what matters is no longer what we achieve, but that the other person doesn't achieve more. When our own achievement loses value if it isn't accompanied by someone else's defeat.
There, competition ceases to be a tool for growth and becomes an emotional burden.
Personally, I think we've all felt that little pang at some point when we see someone achieve something we've wanted. It's not always envy; sometimes it's frustration, impatience, or a reminder of a goal we still haven't reached. And there's nothing wrong with acknowledging it. The important thing is what we do with that feeling.
We can transform it into motivation or allow it to turn into resentment.
We must also learn to distinguish between admiring someone and wanting to be like them. We don't need to copy their steps, adopt their ideas, or replicate their results to prove our capabilities. Each person has different circumstances, timing, tools, and battles. Comparing two paths as if they were the same is a rather unfair way to measure life.
Perhaps true maturity lies in being able to congratulate someone without feeling we're diminishing ourselves. In recognizing that another person can excel at something without that making us feel less. In understanding that there's room for many talents, many opportunities, and many paths to success.
Because not everyone who surpasses us is challenging us, nor does everyone who admires us want to imitate us. Sometimes, we simply coincide in a world where each of us tries to do the best we can with what we have.
And if someone ever looks at us with envy, we don't need to become what we criticize. We don't have to dim our light to make someone else feel comfortable, but neither do we have to constantly prove that we shine.
Admiration builds bridges; envy raises walls. One allows us to learn from others, while the other keeps us busy monitoring what they do.
Ultimately, I prefer to be the kind of person who can admire even what they haven't yet achieved. Someone who competes with themselves, celebrates the accomplishments of others, and doesn't need someone else to lose to feel like they've won.
Because there is a huge difference between wanting to go far and needing someone else to stay behind.
And perhaps that is the true victory: to move forward without losing the ability to recognize the value of those who are also moving forward.
The difference may seem small, but it says a lot about what we carry inside.
Sometimes, a person can admire without seeing. They don't need to know all the details, witness every sacrifice, or understand how someone got there. They simply recognize another's merit. They rejoice, learn, ask questions, observe, and instead of feeling inferior, discover that they too can grow.
That is the admiration of a blind person: the kind that doesn't need to look at others' flaws to recognize their virtues. The kind that doesn't seek comparisons, nor measure who has more, who arrived first, or who receives more applause. It is a pure admiration, capable of recognizing talent even when it belongs to someone outside our circle.
But there is also the envy of the mute. The kind that doesn't always dare to say what it feels, but finds other ways to express itself. It's noticeable in subtle put-downs, in the hidden glee when something goes wrong, in the need to downplay the achievements of others, or in that habit of silently competing with someone who isn't even aware they're participating.
It's curious, because while admiration can motivate a person to improve themselves, envy can turn them into a permanent spectator of other people's lives.
Competition isn't necessarily a bad thing. Healthy competition awakens us. It makes us study more, work better, nurture our projects, and rediscover abilities we may have forgotten. Seeing someone else succeed can lead to a valuable question: What can I learn from that person to improve my own path?
At that moment, we're not trying to take anything away from anyone. We're using what we see as inspiration.
The problem begins when we stop wanting to improve ourselves and start wanting to surpass someone at any cost. When what matters is no longer what we achieve, but that the other person doesn't achieve more. When our own achievement loses value if it isn't accompanied by someone else's defeat.
There, competition ceases to be a tool for growth and becomes an emotional burden.
Personally, I think we've all felt that little pang at some point when we see someone achieve something we've wanted. It's not always envy; sometimes it's frustration, impatience, or a reminder of a goal we still haven't reached. And there's nothing wrong with acknowledging it. The important thing is what we do with that feeling.
We can transform it into motivation or allow it to turn into resentment.
We must also learn to distinguish between admiring someone and wanting to be like them. We don't need to copy their steps, adopt their ideas, or replicate their results to prove our capabilities. Each person has different circumstances, timing, tools, and battles. Comparing two paths as if they were the same is a rather unfair way to measure life.
Perhaps true maturity lies in being able to congratulate someone without feeling we're diminishing ourselves. In recognizing that another person can excel at something without that making us feel less. In understanding that there's room for many talents, many opportunities, and many paths to success.
Because not everyone who surpasses us is challenging us, nor does everyone who admires us want to imitate us. Sometimes, we simply coincide in a world where each of us tries to do the best we can with what we have.
And if someone ever looks at us with envy, we don't need to become what we criticize. We don't have to dim our light to make someone else feel comfortable, but neither do we have to constantly prove that we shine.
Admiration builds bridges; envy raises walls. One allows us to learn from others, while the other keeps us busy monitoring what they do.
Ultimately, I prefer to be the kind of person who can admire even what they haven't yet achieved. Someone who competes with themselves, celebrates the accomplishments of others, and doesn't need someone else to lose to feel like they've won.
Because there is a huge difference between wanting to go far and needing someone else to stay behind.
And perhaps that is the true victory: to move forward without losing the ability to recognize the value of those who are also moving forward.
